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My life revolves around teaching lessons of some sort. Whether it was in my role as an Elementary School Counselor for eleven years, my current role working with kiddos and administrators K-12, mom to two young adults, or owner of two spoiled chocolate labs, I teach lessons all day long. But the most valuable lessons taught on a daily basis, are those taught to me; by my students, by my children, by my dogs, and sometimes even by strangers! And that's what this blog is all about...those limitless lessons that come out of nowhere, but stay with you forever.

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4/23/2013

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I spent time with a friend recently who was extremely hurt by unkind comments made by someone about her.  The person saying the hurtful things wasn’t considered a friend, per say, but more of a close acquaintance in which no ill feelings were thought to exist.  My heart ached for my friend because I could see the profound impact the harsh words had on her.

We’ve all been there.  Heard something someone has said about us and felt the fire in our belly or the sting of tears as we try to make sense of it.  It might be a close friend, a co-worker, an acquaintance whom we exchange polite conversation with in the community, or even a family member.   No matter who it is, if we are not expecting it, the hurt is the same.  It’s painful.  We take it very personally, and why wouldn’t we?!  They are talking about us!  Strangely enough though, it’s really not personal.  Most of the time, what people say about you is a reflection of them, not you. 

Sadly, we’ve also all been THAT person.  The person that says something callous about someone thinking it will never get back (but it always does), or saying something hoping it will get back so someone else can do our dirty work.  Maybe our words are said in a flash of anger, in a fit of jealousy, or even after one too many drinks.  Whatever the reason, once words are spoken, they can never be taken back.  People may forgive you, but they will never forget how you made them feel.  I can’t tell you how many times I have hurled angry, hurtful words in the heat of a moment and regretted them as soon as they left my lips.  Sometimes spoken directly to the person I’m upset with, while sometimes spoken behind their back.  Either way, once said, they could not be retrieved and the damage was done.  In retrospect, most of my “reasons” for talking about someone stemmed from my own jealousy and insecurity.  It really wasn't "personal".

This year I’ve been using an image I got off Pinterest with my students…

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Secretly, I’ve been using it myself as well.  I have this framed in my office and have glanced at it many times while I’ve been on the phone or talking with someone.  I’m amazed at how many times it has stopped me from saying something that was not true, not helpful, not inspiring, not necessary, or just not kind.  As you can imagine, I’ve had to stay silent quite a bit!

The bottom line is this…whether it’s a 6 year-old student crying over another child calling them ugly, or a 56 year-old friend crying over gossip, rumors and hurtful words, the lesson is the same.  Realize the power your words have and remember they can never be reclaimed.  What you say lightheartedly to a group of people, can have lasting effects on the person you are talking about.  Treat others the way you want to be treated and if you don’t have anything nice to say, say nothing at all.  Most importantly, THINK before you speak.  It’s a lesson we can all benefit from.

The tongue has no bones, but is strong enough to break a heart. So be careful with your words.

7 Comments
Sharon link
4/23/2013 09:37:53 am

Well said. Important reminder for all of us. Thanks!

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Mary Beth
4/23/2013 10:40:50 am

Love this and Love YOU!

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Dawn
4/23/2013 11:48:23 am

So true!! Thanks for the reminder!

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Amy
4/23/2013 01:50:15 pm

Awesome! Should be posted in everyone's office, every classroom, everywhere!

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Paige Walters
4/26/2013 02:53:21 pm

Thanks everyone! I really appreciate your comments! xo

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Patti
4/23/2018 12:28:10 pm

An inspirational reminder that we can all use. Thank you!

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Paige
4/23/2018 08:53:58 pm

Thanks Patti! ❤️

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