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My life revolves around teaching lessons of some sort. Whether it was in my role as an Elementary School Counselor for eleven years, my current role working with kiddos and administrators K-12, mom to two young adults, or owner of two spoiled chocolate labs, I teach lessons all day long. But the most valuable lessons taught on a daily basis, are those taught to me; by my students, by my children, by my dogs, and sometimes even by strangers! And that's what this blog is all about...those limitless lessons that come out of nowhere, but stay with you forever.

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The Pursuit of Happiness

3/15/2013

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We are all on the pursuit of happiness.  Most everyone I know (including me) is trying to find some form of happiness.   Well, I have great news!  You can stop looking, happiness never went anywhere.   It’s understandable why we are searching though.  Especially for people my age, you realize your life is half way over and it stops you in your tracks.  You start to think, Is this it?  Am I where I want to be?  Am I as happy as I’m supposed to be?  We realize all the “things” we were waiting on to make us happy (see my I Can't Wait blog post) have come and gone and we are still waiting.  We are constantly comparing the “inside” of our lives to the “outside” lives of others.  We think everyone is happier than we are.  Let me promise you, they’re not.  If they are, it’s because they have already figured out what I’m about to tell you.

I’ve been reading a lot about this quest for happiness.  The best article I’ve read is written by Jonathan Mead on a blog called Marc and Angel Hack Life.  The full blog post is here http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/03/12/one-thing-you-must-stop-doing-to-be-happy/ but he has summed up what I wanted to say in this one paragraph.

“We relentlessly pursue happiness in every imaginable way.  We pursue happiness in material possessions, in social status, and in the acceptance and recognition we get from others.  We even search for happiness in various versions of a future-promised afterlife.  But these pursuits rarely give us more than fleeting moments of joy.  We end up missing out on lots of thrilling life experiences and contentment because we fail to understand a very simple but easily overlooked fact…

The Search for Happiness Causes Misery

You can’t find something that’s already here with you.  Happiness exists in this moment.  It’s not something you need to find.  That’s like trying to find the oxygen you’re breathing right now. It’s especially difficult when society tends to place more value on things and status, than on experiences.  We are told to value what we do more than how we feel.  This is complete nonsense when you think about it.  The way you feel is far more important than what you own or how others perceive you.  Isn’t the purpose of everything you do to feel good?  Isn’t the purpose of that new gold watch, that important job title, or college degree to give you a feeling of accomplishment?  Aren’t these things supposed to make you happy?”

Did you know there are different types of happiness?  If you look up happiness in the dictionary, it defines happiness, but it also defines levels of happiness.  Bliss, for instance, is supreme delight.  Felicity is an intense kind of happiness.  My favorite kind of happiness though, is contentment.  Contentment is defined as a peaceful kind of happiness in which one rests without desires, even though every wish my not have been gratified.  I like that one.  It made me start thinking about what small moments make me happy.  Of course my relationships make me happy.  My time with friends and family makes me happy, but what are the small moments, aside from relationships, that make me feel content?  I made a short list.

1.       Coming home to a clean house (preferably cleaned by someone else!)
2.       Fresh flowers (especially wildflowers and daisies).
3.       Getting into a cool bed with fresh sheets on it.
4.       Finding money in my pocket.
5.       The first spring day when I can roll my windows down.
6.       The first summer day when I can take the top down on my jeep.
7.       The first winter night when I crank up the fireplace.
8.       My favorite jeans fitting (if they were a little big, that would be bliss!!)
9.       Finding the perfect shade of lip gloss.
10.     Getting a new purse or wallet and switching all my stuff into it.
11.     Hearing my favorite song on the radio.
12.     An unexpected call, text or note from someone I care about.
13.     My dog lying in my lap.
14.     Any time spent by the ocean.
15.     A snow day!
16.     A tan.
17.     Listening to rain fall on our metal roof.  Even better is watching the rain come from over the mountain.
18.     A walk outside on a beautiful day.
19.     A great book.
20.     Music that speaks to me exactly when I need it.

Mr. Mead writes, “Instead (of basing happiness on things, status, and people), we should base our happiness on the life we are living – on the beauty that is already ours, on desires that don’t shift from moment to moment.  We choose to find in our happiness now – in life itself.  In fact, we don’t even need to ‘find’ happiness.  We can be happiness.  Stop searching.  Stop chasing.  Happiness is already here.”

What would make your list?  What small moments make you feel content?  Have you stopped chasing happiness?  How did it work out for you?

"Happiness is like a butterfly;  the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder." ~Thoreau

5 Comments
Katy
3/15/2013 04:35:34 am

I love it! Thanks for sharing!

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Paige Walters
3/15/2013 08:34:52 am

Thanks Katy!!

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karin clark
3/18/2013 12:57:34 pm

Friends like you make me happy!

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Tena
3/18/2013 01:26:59 pm

Well said. I love it!
:-)

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Paige Walters
3/19/2013 04:46:35 am

Thanks Karin and Tena!!! Friends definitely make me happy!

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